Dealing with stubborn children

stubbornness in children,mostly found in toddlers and teenagers, is a part of their development and learning process.Stubbornness gives children a feeling that they can have control over a situation
and exhibit their self confidence which is sometimes in conflict with parents. When dealing with children's rebellious behaviors,parents should state their stand,the reasons and the consequence of disobedience.
Some stubborn behaviors may be a sign of deep resistance and inclination to destructiveness. Parents then should consider two following facts:the relationship between you and your children
and discipline training for your children,
Children who have a healthy relationship with their parents are normally obedient because they want to please their parents. If a child is very stubborn and difficult,you should take time to build
a trusting relationship,spend more time together at least 20-30 minutes a day and never forget to praise them when deserved.
Once a good relationship is formed,the next step is to keep them well-disciplined. Children will cooperate when they see the significance of following the rules. Parents should have and agreement
or some kind of rules for them to follow i.e. have them keep the schedule and follow certain family's rules. The instructions should be clear and concise. You may want to remind them beforehand about the
schedule. Sometimes you can let children be part of decision-making i.e. allow them to choose if they want to brush their teeth after meal or take a shower with a parent. When children succeed in following the rules,
always praise them for their effort. if they still stubborn and show the follow signs such as short concentration, stress or emotional fluctuation,consultation with a psychiatrist is advisable.

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